When
Susan first visited Palm Springs, California, it was in January 1983, a couple
of months after her second wedding, for her honeymoon. She had become divorced from her first
husband, Paulo, in early 1981. Soon
afterward, she’d moved to Calgary, Alberta to start a new life and, in the
process of getting her life set up there, she would meet her
second-husband-to-be. Meeting this man
would change her life in ways she had never before imagined.
Susan
had obtained a temporary assignment (one of many, as it happened) at an office
building situated in one of Calgary’s many industrial parks. At that time, Calgary was growing at an unprecedented
rate. People were moving into the city much
faster than they were moving out. The
oil industry was largely responsible for this rapid growth in the Canadian West. This move was the biggest one she would ever
make in her life.
One day, Susan
met a man named Trevor. They worked at the same place—a company called PPG
Industries, which manufactured windows. He worked in the accounting department,
and she worked as a temp, a temporary office assistant. Susan found Trevor
charming and nice, but she was not overly attracted to him. To her, he was too
short and somewhat stout, plus he had thin, reddish hair—definitely not the
kind of guy she usually went for. But she supposed that he liked her a lot
because after she’d left her temp assignment at PPG Industries, he called her
at home several times to ask her out.
Susan would
reply, “No, Trevor, I’m way too busy with other things in my life to consider
dating anyone right now.” But, the truth
was she didn’t want to go out with him. He
seemed harmless enough, but she really wasn’t interested in dating, or in
him. This statement was strange coming
from her because she had regularly dated men for many years before and after
her first marriage. Taking a break from
that racket seemed a prudent thing to do while she was still trying to find her
feet in this new city environment.
Susan
was a very hard worker who had gone all the way through university and earned a
bachelor of commerce degree with high honours (80 percent average). Her heart
was in the business world, where she wanted to make it strictly on her own
merits. To this end, she’d gotten many opportunities to work in different jobs
requiring different responsibilities. None of these jobs was all that
challenging, but she took what she could from each job and built up an
impressive repertoire of business experience. Regardless, no one seemed to take
her abilities seriously, including her usually male bosses and associates, her
predominantly female coworkers, her boyfriend of three years, and her family.
It just didn’t make any sense. Why did they all have this anti-feminist
attitude? She was just as good as anyone else at work, yet the pervasive
attitudes persisted and she was getting more and more frustrated as time
passed. After all, she was approaching 30 and still hadn’t found her niche in the world of work. Susan resolved not
to quit trying though, since that would have played right into their hands. She
was no quitter; she knew that if she quit, she would never win, and she
intended to win in life, come hell or high water.
Nevertheless, her
male bosses and associates relentlessly hit on her no matter where she was
working. There wasn’t a week that went by when some man wasn’t flirting
outrageously with her. She thought it was because being a woman in the business
world was not perceived as anything important. As far as they seemed to be concerned,
the business world belonged to men—they were the ones responsible for anything
significant that happened. They needed the women who worked for them, or with
them, to act as support staff and “worker bees” only. Susan knew she was an
excellent “worker bee”—everyone knew that. But the business leadership skills
that she still craved to develop were not demanded nearly as often as her practical
office skills.
So, here she was
now, in a brand new Canadian city, far from her former home in Toronto, not
knowing a soul and, though she’d needed to change her life completely, she
still felt singularly unfulfilled. What
was the answer? She would soon find out
that there was no real answer: after
all, it’s a hit-and-miss world, which meant that if she did find what she was
looking for in life, it appeared as if it was going to be more of an accident
of Fate than the result of any conscious decision making. What was she to do now?
When
Trevor asked her out, yet again, very shyly one day, she did not know what to
say to him except: “Trevor, I like you a lot as a friend, but I am not looking
for a relationship nor am I interested in dating anyone right now.” Looking
down in embarrassment, he replied, “Okay, Susan, round one goes to you, but I’m
not quitting. I’ll try again later when
you’ve settled into your new life.” Trevor
did not want her to know how persistent he could be in trying to get what he
wanted for himself.
Several months
passed and she was no further ahead. So,
on an impulse, she decided to give Trevor a call one day to see what he was up
to. He was still interested in her and
they decided to start dating. Pretty soon,
they moved in together, renting a small house in Pineridge, a suburb in
northeast Calgary. Against all odds, she
was happy living with him and he reciprocated in kind. It wasn’t one of those fire-and-brimstone
relationships that she’d so often experienced in the past, but it was nice to
have a man around who appeared to care deeply for her.
Trevor
became the man she finally thought she’d spend the rest of her life with; he
was good, kind and caring. He wasn’t
terrifically good looking, which she was usually accustomed to in boyfriends
and husbands, but he had convinced her he truly loved her and she had
eventually grown to accept him and love him as much as she could love
anyone. The day Trevor asked Susan to
marry him was the happiest day she’d had in a long time and she gladly accepted
his very romantic proposal. At that
point, she set about planning a wedding for the following year. She did not want to rush into this marriage
and screw it up like her previous one.
In the meantime, her plan was to work at various temporary assignments
until she found a good full-time job and they could get to know each other
better as a now-engaged live-in couple, as well.
About six months
later, they went to a business meeting that a friend of Trevor’s, Dale, had
invited them to. Dale told them that it
was “a wonderful business opportunity”. It
turned out to be an opportunity to become Amway distributors under Dale and his
wife Gloria, who had already been very successful Direct Distributors in Amway
for several years. Their success was
largely due to their ability to both recruit and motivate people to join their
small group; to use and sell the various Amway products, which were all
excellent in quality; and to go to meetings in various locales. Susan and Trevor were so excited at
discovering this new way of doing business that they joined Dale and Gloria’s
group without hesitation.
About a year
later, as Susan and Trevor were still actively making wedding plans for their
big day, November 20, 1982, they still had given no thought to a honeymoon trip. It was Gloria’s idea that they all travel to Palm
Springs to a big Amway rally that was planned there in early January
1983. Each couple would have to pay for
their own flight and hotel, but the food and entry fees to the speeches and
other events were both to be included in a package deal. As their “up-line” distributors, Dale and
Gloria would also attend this convention.
Then, Susan got
the brilliant idea of asking Gloria to be her matron of honour at her wedding. In addition, she also asked two of her closest
girlfriends, who were now their “down-line” distributors, to be her other two
bridesmaids. Their names were Shannon
and Lorraine. Susan wanted to remember
this wedding as an event that would include all the people she liked most in
Calgary – people whose friendship now meant everything to the engaged couple. After the wedding, there would only be fond
memories of each other, even if they eventually decided to stop doing business
together as a group and go their separate ways.
One thing was for sure, Susan had never been to a place like Palm Springs, or anywhere in California for that matter, and it going to be the trip of a lifetime for her and Trevor. She set about learning more about the climate, geography and tourism of this southern city.
One thing was for sure, Susan had never been to a place like Palm Springs, or anywhere in California for that matter, and it going to be the trip of a lifetime for her and Trevor. She set about learning more about the climate, geography and tourism of this southern city.
Palm Springs has
a mostly hot and usually dry climate, with over 300 days of sunshine and around
4.83 inches (122.7 mm) of rain annually.
The winter months are warm, with a majority of days reaching 70 °F
(21 °C) and in January and February days often see temperatures of
80 °F (27 °C) and on occasion reach over 90 °F (32 °C),
while, on average, there are 17 nights annually dipping to or below 40 °F
(4 °C); freezing
temperatures occur less than half the time. The lowest temperature ever recorded
was 19 °F (−7 °C), on January 22, 1937.
Geographically speaking, Palm Springs is a desert resort city in Riverside County, California, within the Coachella
Valley. It is located
approximately 55 miles (89 kilometres) east of San Bernardino, 107 miles (172 kilometres)
east of Los Angeles,
123 miles (198 kilometres) northeast of San Diego,
and 268 miles (431 kilometres) west of Phoenix,
Arizona. The population was
44,552 as of the 2010 census. Palm
Springs covers approximately 94 square miles, making it the largest city in the
county by land area.
Biking, golf,
hiking, horseback riding, swimming, and tennis in the nearby desert and
mountain areas are major forms of recreation here.
Tourism continued to be a major factor in the city's
economy with 1.6 million visitors in 2011.
The city has over 130 hotels and resorts, numerous bed
& breakfast inns and over 100 restaurants and
dining spots.
There was no doubt in Susan’s mind that Palm Springs was a
very nice place to visit in the winter months.
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